Apr 28th

Important message for all members of DropBy

By Mary B

I posted this as a global message about two weeks ago but I am still finding members who are not aware of the situation relating to DropBy, so I thought I had better add it as a blog.


Update on DropBy


After six weeks of intermittent correspondence with our hosting and support company I have reluctantly come to the conclusion that they are not able, or are not willing, to reinstate my profile and all of my postings going back over the 8 years that DropBy has existed. This is of great sadness to me, as you may well imagine.

I have set up another profile for myself but no profile now has network ownership access rights. Without this I am limited in what I am able to do.

Since December last year there have been issues with my access to the control panel from where I was able to amend the text and layout of the website. As I have said before, the DropBy platform is now 10 years old, and DropBy has been going for eight of those years. It has been a wonderful experience for many of us.

The platform is no longer being supported, and it is now obvious that the support team no longer has the expertise to reinstate members or help me with the issues that I have faced for several weeks. They have also made it clear that there is no option to replicate the website on a more modern platform. In short, we are facing the end of an era.

To add to the issues that relate to the ageing platform and the unresponsive and unhelpful hosting company, I have also to consider our position when new legislation comes into effect on the 25th May 2018. This is the European Union General Data Protection Regulation and it changes the way that organisations are able to use the data they collect. It is a very positive step as far as our personal data is concerned, and I am supportive of the measure. However DropBy is hosted by a company who are not GDPR compliant, and they do not intend to become complaint as far as our old platform is concerned. They are offering a new platform, but I have tested this  and it is little more than a paid version of WhatsApp and I am not even sure this new platform is GDPR compliant.

It is therefore, with much reget that I have to inform you that I have requested that DropBy be taken off line on Monday 21st May 2018. You can imagine how difficult I found that decision, but I fear I have no option in light of the new legislation and all our technical issues.

Please use the next five weeks to ensure that you have taken copies of material from DropBy that you would like to keep. Please recognise the copyright of any material that is owned by others. Please also use this time to make sure you have the contact details of your friends on DropBy so you can be "Always In Touch".

So, a chapter comes to an end. It is sad, but what I feel we must always remember is the fun, the pleasure and friendship that those of us who truly became engaged with DropBy enjoyed, and will continue to enjoy if so desired.

There are still options to be explored. I am in touch with the University of Surrey to see if they can help with technical advice and volunteers. However any new development will take some months so there will be a time when there will be no DropBy.

There are many other forums to be enjoyed. They are all different. DropBy was unique, thanks to it's members, but I am sure members will be able to find somewhere else to go to make friends, if that is what they want.

I think it is important to be grateful for the time we had together on DropBy, and to look forward with hope and optimism - and to continue to send virtual waves whenever we can!

I would like to thank you all for joining DropBy, your support, and in many cases your friendship and kind words.

At the end of the day what we all desire is just a friendly word of cheer and kindness, as it is that which keeps us and the world going.

I shall continue to work to see what can be done to keep DropBy alive. I intend to continue to own the domain name. I am always looking for people to work with in partnership to keep this idea going. Many have told me that I was ahead of the times...... and that DropBy is needed even more these days than when I first set it up, and our user figures from the last couple of months supports that view.

So prepare for the end of an era, but live in hope for something to spring from the ashes - who knows what might be possible.

In the meantime I have set up a Closed Group on Facebook for those members who use that platform. I know many of you would not consider using Facebook, and I quite understand your reluctance. However it has been suggested as an immediate and easy option, and is there to be used if required. It can be found at:https://www.facebook.com/groups/dropbyco/

Sending a very big wave and a huge smile to last for a long time......


Mar 31st

Parable of a Cracked Pot

By brenda r
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Feb 13th

The Result of Science?

By Maureen J

Rain has fallen in record-breaking amounts for months. Living in rural Carmarthenshire for the last twenty years, I have become aware of many physical as well as environmental changes.

We did get the occasional downpour that caused a flash torrent which picked up and carried a collection of debris along our country lane. As we are on a hill, it followed the natural contours and headed down to the brook that flows around  the village of Ferryside where it joins other tributaries as they feed into the Towy river that eventually joins  others in Carmarthen Bay.

Currently, all lanes and small roads in the surrounding countryside are awash with mud; the result of run-off from grass verges squashed and squelched under the huge wheels of giant tractors, milk tankers and articulated monsters delivering animal feed while incidentally doing some road-widening at the same time.

Last year, several surrounding fields were ploughed. It was the first time this had happened in the twenty years since my arrival. They were subsequently planted with corn which may have been intended for cattle-feed or bio-fuel. The ground was first sprayed with herbicide causing the fields to shrivel into rusty desiccation within two or three days. They were subsequently ploughed, further sprayed with cow-slurry and phosphates while being ingeniously tilled and drilled with seed in one mammoth operation. The results yielded bumper corn crops; possiby prompted by current EU farming policy, since more than one local farmer was involved.

Following the harvest, the fields have lain fallow without grass or plants of any kind – just acres of skeletal stalks sticking up from the mud; the whole resembling those battlefields depicted after World War I. With no plants soaking up the rain, the road alongside one of the fields near my home has flooded after every downpour with the field itself resembling a lake at the end nearest the road.

At a time when the world is being asked to be more environmentally aware, why are farmers using herbicides that must eventually leach toxins into the ecosystem, contaminating waterways and creating situations whereby fields are so poisonous they cannot grow grass. Is all this the result of science?

Oct 24th

The Frog

By brenda r

This is one of my favorites 
A frog goes into a bank, and hops up on the desk of the loan officer. ''Hi,'' he croaks.''What's your name?''
The loan officer says, ''My name is John Paddywack. May I help you?''
''Yeah,'' says the frog. ''I'd like to borrow some money.''
The loan officer finds this a little odd, but gets out a form. ''Okay,what's your name?''
The frog replies, ''Kermit Jagger.''
''Really?'' says the loan officer. ''Any relation to Mick Jagger?''
''Yeah, he's my dad.''
''Hmmm,'' says the loan officer. ''Do you have any collateral?''
The frog hands over a pink ceramic elephant and asks, ''Will this do?''
The loan officer says, ''Um, I'm not sure. Let me go check with the bank manager.''
''Oh, tell him I said hi,'' adds the frog. ''He knows me.''
The loan officer goes back to the manager and says, ''Excuse me, sir, but there's a frog out there named Kermit Jagger who wants to borrow some money. All he has for collateral is this pink elephant thing; I'm not even sure what it is.''
The manager says: ''It's a knick-knack, Paddywack, give the frog a loan; his old man's a Rolling Stone !

Oct 17th


By brenda r

Something to ponder...



You know, time has a way of moving quickly and catching you unaware of the passing years. 

It seems just yesterday that I was young, just married and embarking on my new life with my mate. And yet in a way, it seems like eons ago, and I wonder where all the years went. 

I know that I lived them all...

And I have glimpses of how it was back then and of all my hopes and dreams... But, here it is ...the winter of my life and it catches me by surprise...

How did I get here so fast? Where did the years go and where did my babies go? And where did my youth go? 

I remember well ...seeing older people through the years and thinking that those older people were years away from me and that winter was so far off that I could not fathom it or imagine fully what it would be like... 

But, here it is ...wife retired and she's really getting gray ...she moves slower and I see an older woman now. She's in better shape than me .. but I see the great change ...  Not the one I married who was young and vibrant ...but, like me, her age is beginning to show and we are now those older folks that we used to see and never thought we'd be. 

Each day now, I find that just getting a shower is a real target for the day! And taking a nap is not a treat anymore .it's mandatory! 'Cause if I don't on my own free will .I just fall asleep where I sit! 

And so, now I enter into this new season of my life, unprepared for all the aches and pains and the loss of strength and the ability to go and do things. 

But, though the winter has come, and I'm not sure how long

it will last...this I know, that when it's over...it's over...


Yes, I have regrets. There are things I wish I hadn't done ...things I should have done. But indeed, there are many things I'm happy to have done.  Its all in a lifetime... 

So, if you're not in your winter yet .let me remind you:

 it will be here faster than you think. Thus, whatever you would like to accomplish in your life, please do it quickly! 

Life goes by so fast. So, do what you can today because you can never be sure whether this is your winter or not! 

You have no promise that you will see all the seasons of your life ...therefore, do your best today and say all the things that you want your loved ones to remember...

"Life is a gift to you. The way you live your life is your gift

to those who came after. Make it a fantastic one." 


Jun 20th


By phillip J W

June seems to have been so very quiet on here - & yet I thought it was simply because I couldn't get on to say anything!  

Some time very early in the month I seemed to get myself locked out & have only just managed to get back in by changing my pass word.  

Technology has always managed to baffel me; usually because I posess a rather obscure logic, but having managed to sign-in again - as I say, no one apperes to be 'around to play.'  

Nice to know I can get back in though!

Mar 16th


By Steve S

A brief bit about me. I took voluntary redundancy from a company I worked for last year (2016) with the view to phasing in early retirement. Things at the moment are going to plan. Retiring from the workplace can be a shock to the system if you haven't had total freedom before. Luckily I've taken to it like the proverbial duck out of water.

I have lots of interests, some of which are; online chess, reading, motorcycling. The reason I joined this site is to have more people to chat to who are of a similar age and maybe swop ideas on life in general.
Have a nice day.



Jan 4th


By phillip J W

Well hallo all !

I've probably not ventured along here in quite a while, sorry.

...What with one thing & another I've been kind-of busy, in a day-dreaming-retired-person kind of way

but this morning I thought, being as how it is early January, I ought to mention how the sun crawls desperately low behind the trees up the bank [I don’t expect it to rise above the roofs of the Front St shops today] - & yet it is a warm encouraging sunshine.

This neck of my particular woods isn't everyone's cup of tea, but I have taken it up as Home.  

It's how I go forward this year.

I hope your year is happy. 

Nov 26th

How we have changed

By Chrystie M

Every  Christmas I give my family cheques for their presents and then some small thing so it isn't just an envelope.  One of my daughter in laws loved her house and I found in my drawer under my bed quite a lot of lovely beautiful crocheted little things, like what one used to  put on a tray, and also a table cloth with bright flowers on it, all done by me.  One extra was two tray things,(beautiful, hand made) for a wedding present.

So' good' I thought Gina would love some of these.  But no she is not well, and all those sort of things are not used any more.  But NO ONE uses them, even me. Too much washing and ironing. So that leaves me wondering what I can give HER.

And even babies, when I think about it.  I used to knit or crochet little hats/caps  for new babies but now they dont wear them as everything is all in one, and in fact  is much better.  And what about nappies while we are on this subject.  Washiing them in the washing machine (which luckily we did have then - just).My mother in law who made caring her house and home was an art and it was quite notable compared to mine I must admit, but she even ironed the nappies!!

Aug 24th

The life I lost

By Lin K

a born again triker babe, lol.  Absolutely loved riding behind Dave, never learned to drive so didn't have the nerve to ride it with me in control.  Wonderful being member of bike club, mainly bikers but some triker too.


got to work out where life will now lead, but know Dave would have wanted me to have fun

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